Static and Dynamic
There is a great difference between a static web-page and a dynamic one.
In static web pages you don't do anything but watch, or receive the information displayed on a certain form, and then you don't get to do anything with it, just view, store, and Bob's your uncle.
On dynamic web-pages though, there are certain resources that you have - Very similar in nature to the ones on the static web page - that you can react with, give and take, provide information based on your understanding of what you could see on the rest of the content displayed.
I could see in my own culture what I could call "Static Raising" of the offspring's in general, both the males who are supposed to be the leaders of the future, and the females who are supposed to be providers of the future leaders, but what actually happens is the effects of the "Static" form of providing information to the people who will start dealing with the givens of this life in the future, and the ones who are dealing with them right now!
Dynamic as it is, the other categorized type of raising that I'm looking up to, is the sort that makes the kids UNDERSTAND the what, the how and the why. I think that as a parent there are certain things that are EXTREMELY hard to overcome, one of the most prominent ones is the parent's point of view that's called "experience" that they try to force their children to make actions upon most of the time. No need to elaborate here any further.
One of the other things that maybe has the same psychological source as the one stated formerly is what people call "Over-protection". Sometimes the kids don't need much protection in order to dynamically provide them with that ability to become dynamic: that is the ability to take inputs and process them on their own, to provide the unique output the defines who they are, thus building their own experience.
Providing luxury to the little ones is of course a goal to every parent with enough self-respect, psychological and emotional intelligence. There are side effects to this that should be eyed by those with awareness, specially who come from a background without much luxury. It can't be hidden from anyone that technology took us to another definition of what we can call "luxury", but my point of view here is that the kids should constantly be aware of how this all came into their possession, because taking luxury for granted is extremely dangerous, specially for youngsters who are not fully mature yet. In order to be a user of luxury one has to deserve it somehow, if not scientifically then mentally, at least not become a blind user per se.
You see, the point here is that if you provide your young ones with visibility over the big picture in all aspects you can, then they should be safe in this life if God wills that, because the engine of intellect placed inside their skull would constantly be working with their eyes and their senses. To tell them why, tell them how, tell them the inputs and an EXAMPLE of the processing thus the output, and not just provide them with a static web-page that has a number of words and images on them, and not allow them to comment, or even critique what they see, let alone create their own pages one day.
It is pretty much imminent that there are some things in the past that we took statically from our parents in our culture, but the truth is that my generation has undergone several major surgeries when it comes to the shape of the society we live inside. We've heard so much about the concept of the "good wife that lasts" from the older generation, and let us just look deeper into how much disrespect this model has to the concept of wife. Does she have to become 'something' that lasts? Is this the only thing a man wants from a woman? Someone to be static at home and take care of all his needs, tolerate him, tolerate the kids, last for as long as she has breath in her body, and that's it?!
Again I said "Static", haven't I? Yeah, guys nowadays are somewhere in between the choices "dynamic" women provide (I'm neither with or against the concept, because I haven't defined it yet) and the statues of the past that come into being when the guy's ego kicks in, and finds out that he wants someone to control instead of someone to.. someone to SHARE with in every aspect, someone to satisfy, someone to give and take with, someone to have an intelligent conversation with, someone you can trust in most aspects to run the project of your life efficiently, because in this life human knowledge is running really fast, and if you fall behind then your project will never be a winner.
Dynamic again, it is a dynamic life, and two hands need to build not just one. Nowadays you cannot throw the burden of life on the man's shoulders only, and the support of the wife in our current times has totally different requirements from the wife's support in the old "simpler" days. A wife that has never played PC games in her life would not understand the kind of fun her kids have while playing on the PS3 for example, and without that kind of understanding her orders will be just "Static", STOP PLAYING! Instead of providing a more intellectual manner of doing business inside the house, aiding in providing something more complex than food on the table to the "Leaders of the future". That's merely a trivial example, but I think it gives an idea of what I want to say.
I'm not saying anything new here I think, I'm just trying to become a witness upon my own self, so that one day when I am a husband and a parent inshaAllah, I would try to become someone who applies what he says and what he believes in, so help me God.
In static web pages you don't do anything but watch, or receive the information displayed on a certain form, and then you don't get to do anything with it, just view, store, and Bob's your uncle.
On dynamic web-pages though, there are certain resources that you have - Very similar in nature to the ones on the static web page - that you can react with, give and take, provide information based on your understanding of what you could see on the rest of the content displayed.
I could see in my own culture what I could call "Static Raising" of the offspring's in general, both the males who are supposed to be the leaders of the future, and the females who are supposed to be providers of the future leaders, but what actually happens is the effects of the "Static" form of providing information to the people who will start dealing with the givens of this life in the future, and the ones who are dealing with them right now!
Dynamic as it is, the other categorized type of raising that I'm looking up to, is the sort that makes the kids UNDERSTAND the what, the how and the why. I think that as a parent there are certain things that are EXTREMELY hard to overcome, one of the most prominent ones is the parent's point of view that's called "experience" that they try to force their children to make actions upon most of the time. No need to elaborate here any further.
One of the other things that maybe has the same psychological source as the one stated formerly is what people call "Over-protection". Sometimes the kids don't need much protection in order to dynamically provide them with that ability to become dynamic: that is the ability to take inputs and process them on their own, to provide the unique output the defines who they are, thus building their own experience.
Providing luxury to the little ones is of course a goal to every parent with enough self-respect, psychological and emotional intelligence. There are side effects to this that should be eyed by those with awareness, specially who come from a background without much luxury. It can't be hidden from anyone that technology took us to another definition of what we can call "luxury", but my point of view here is that the kids should constantly be aware of how this all came into their possession, because taking luxury for granted is extremely dangerous, specially for youngsters who are not fully mature yet. In order to be a user of luxury one has to deserve it somehow, if not scientifically then mentally, at least not become a blind user per se.
You see, the point here is that if you provide your young ones with visibility over the big picture in all aspects you can, then they should be safe in this life if God wills that, because the engine of intellect placed inside their skull would constantly be working with their eyes and their senses. To tell them why, tell them how, tell them the inputs and an EXAMPLE of the processing thus the output, and not just provide them with a static web-page that has a number of words and images on them, and not allow them to comment, or even critique what they see, let alone create their own pages one day.
It is pretty much imminent that there are some things in the past that we took statically from our parents in our culture, but the truth is that my generation has undergone several major surgeries when it comes to the shape of the society we live inside. We've heard so much about the concept of the "good wife that lasts" from the older generation, and let us just look deeper into how much disrespect this model has to the concept of wife. Does she have to become 'something' that lasts? Is this the only thing a man wants from a woman? Someone to be static at home and take care of all his needs, tolerate him, tolerate the kids, last for as long as she has breath in her body, and that's it?!
Again I said "Static", haven't I? Yeah, guys nowadays are somewhere in between the choices "dynamic" women provide (I'm neither with or against the concept, because I haven't defined it yet) and the statues of the past that come into being when the guy's ego kicks in, and finds out that he wants someone to control instead of someone to.. someone to SHARE with in every aspect, someone to satisfy, someone to give and take with, someone to have an intelligent conversation with, someone you can trust in most aspects to run the project of your life efficiently, because in this life human knowledge is running really fast, and if you fall behind then your project will never be a winner.
Dynamic again, it is a dynamic life, and two hands need to build not just one. Nowadays you cannot throw the burden of life on the man's shoulders only, and the support of the wife in our current times has totally different requirements from the wife's support in the old "simpler" days. A wife that has never played PC games in her life would not understand the kind of fun her kids have while playing on the PS3 for example, and without that kind of understanding her orders will be just "Static", STOP PLAYING! Instead of providing a more intellectual manner of doing business inside the house, aiding in providing something more complex than food on the table to the "Leaders of the future". That's merely a trivial example, but I think it gives an idea of what I want to say.
I'm not saying anything new here I think, I'm just trying to become a witness upon my own self, so that one day when I am a husband and a parent inshaAllah, I would try to become someone who applies what he says and what he believes in, so help me God.
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You see, each & everyday comes in with a new chance & a new opportunity.. A lotta people around me miss seeing that & years pass them by with many lost chances & opportunities.. Being statically dynamic (if can be) will cause a big change to our world, even if it's just by the start of wanting to be so..
How I wish people TAKE THEIR TIME instead of KILL IT!
If you ask the very next stranger, when was the last time he/she has contemplated on a sunrise or a sunset, they'd most likely tell you: "since forever"..
We now traded the term loss for gain & vice versa..
I pray that my note to that sweet lady driver yesterday has left her with a brighter vision, just as the one she has left me with.. And I guess, this is how statically dynamic (again if can be) our world can be again.. Just as beautifully sunny as it once was
respectfully,